Abstract/Summary

Objectives Little is known about the nature and role of self-compassion in family carers of older adults. The study aimed to explore carers’ understanding and experiences of self-compassion within their everyday lives. Methods This study involved thematic analysis of semi-structured qualitative interviews with 17 British carers of older adults. Results Six themes were identified: In Self-compassion means connected self is prioritised, carers identified self-compassion to involve self-kindness, common humanity, and the self as priority; Compromise and conflict reflected stressors within the caring context and surrounding relationships; Resource depletion described how stressors increased physical or psychological strain, highlighting the need for self-compassion; Connection with others described how carers experienced self-compassion when they felt connected, but aloneness was experienced more often than not; Coping mindset involved reframing and acceptance of challenges to foster self-compassion, and in Setting boundaries participants described maintaining a separate identity or role. Conclusions This study described key aspects of self-compassion experiences of carers in their everyday lives. It also identified facilitators and barriers to self-compassion which may inform possible interventions. Overall, self-compassion depended on mindset, clarity and understanding of the situation, and ability to maintain separation between ‘self’ and ‘carer’. These qualities were offset against barriers such as demands and compromises between lived experience and ideal recipient relationship, that made achieving self-compassion in these ways difficult.